How to Overcome the 9 Most Common Obstacles That Prevent People From Living Their Dreams

How to Overcome the 9 Most Common Obstacles That Prevent People From Living Their Dreams

As a psychotherapist, I get the honor of helping people tackle their goals. Some clients are really inspired to change their lives and they just want a little direction getting there. Other clients are feeling a bit more hopeless and discouraged about creating positive changes. Either way, my job is to help them take the steps they need to make their lives better.

Over the years, I’ve learned that no matter what kind of goal someone is trying to reach–health, financial, parenting , relationship, or career–there are some common traps that might keep them from living their dreams.

Here are nine most common traps that could prevent you from reaching your goals and the strategies that will help you avoid them: 1. Putting your goals off until ‘someday.’

Since ‘someday’ never appears on the calendar, you’ll never accomplish your goals if you keep pushing them off. The best of intentions won’t do you any good without a clear plan.

Solution: If a goal is important to you, create a timeline. Even if you can’t start working on it today, at least tell yourself when you can tackle it. Whether you want to apply for a promotion once your child starts school or you plan to return to college when you turn 40, stop using the word ‘someday.’

2. Waiting to take action until you ‘feel’ ready.

If you wait until you feel ready to tackle something tough you might be waiting a long time. It’s unlikely that you’re going to gain a sudden burst of inspiration out of the blue.

Solution: Change your behavior first. Sometimes, the emotions change later. Take action and you may gain the ambition you need to keep going.

3. Not anticipating the tough times.

Whether you want to get out of debt, or you’re hoping to lose weight, change isn’t easy. You’ll encounter some days that are harder than others and it’s important to accept that there will be a rough road ahead.

Solution: Think about potential pitfalls that you might face and develop a plan for dealing with those times when you might be tempted to give up. When you have a plan, you’ll feel more confident in your ability to keep going.

4. Viewing mistakes as failure .

Progress rarely comes in a straight line. But sometimes, people think one step back means they’ve gone all the way back to square one, which causes them to give up.

Solution: Recognize that you’re going to mess up sometimes. But rather than declare yourself a dismal failure, use your energy to create a plan to get back on track. 5. Not making your goal a priority.

It’s easy to say you want to make change but […]

Caitlyn Wang
Caitlyn has scored above 99% every standardized tests she's taken since the ripe young age of 7, from the Wechsler IQ test, ABSRM piano performance exam to SAT. She is a proven senior business leader with global marketing, product development, supply chain management backgrounds who likes to tackle the impossible and has managed teams on three continents. Equally important, she is a devoted mother of two, a skilled pianist, certified yoga and aerial teacher, vocalist and lifelong learner.
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